tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post6056560529623086414..comments2024-03-29T11:40:46.477+03:00Comments on Life in Israel: Assuming the investigation resultsRafi G.http://www.blogger.com/profile/00699851287106903971noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-89344493466600751922009-08-10T16:30:01.624+03:002009-08-10T16:30:01.624+03:00just to clarify: I don't mean to draw a compa...just to clarify: I don't mean to draw a comparison between an ad campaign which outright (almost b'shita) mocks an issur and a call by the homosexual community for acceptance and tolerance. Unless there was some float at the gay pride parade with the banner "v'et zachar lo tishkav mish'kivei isha" -- that would be a provocation. Lobbying for gay rights in a respectable manner isn't provocative. Bothersome to many, perhaps, but not provocative.Tamarnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-80302968888301079902009-08-10T16:21:19.332+03:002009-08-10T16:21:19.332+03:00Apropos the institutionalizing of certain issurei ...Apropos the institutionalizing of certain issurei de'oraita: I saw an item on a non-kosher restaurant's menu named: "kid in its mother's milk" (it was for a cheeseburger with goat cheese)<br />So maybe even issues of kashrut are no longer being quietly ignored but even flaunted quite mockingly (that was my take on the menu item)Tamarnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-66719676173373083482009-08-10T16:12:51.517+03:002009-08-10T16:12:51.517+03:00Shaul,
I guess it depends on what you hold to be ...Shaul,<br /><br />I guess it depends on what you hold to be torah. The reform are "b'shita" allowing pork and what you and I call Chillul shabbos. But, They hold it's mutar. So in essence, there are groups that lshitascha are publicizing their aveiros! <br /><br />The fact is, no other issur bothers people as much as sexual issurim, specifically homosexuality. I believe that based on various reports I've read thru, it's mostly due to the fact that frum men are scared to admit that being gay is too much a possibility for them and they are afraid of it. They are not afraid of chilul shabbos or tarfus, but they are scared to death of being labeled gay. therefore, they scream and yell about how bad it is and try to eradicate anyone who has the balls to stand up and announce they are gay. If the same person stood up and stand - i hate shabbos and will lite a campfire - most of you would say - whatever.<br />The fact is that homosexuality is treated much worse than any other issur that has the same punishment - I believe ther a re at least six others called a toeivah - inc eating sheratzim - e.g. lobster. <br /><br />NO ONE here is advocating we say, it's ok what you are doing. What we are saying is, despoite the choice of your lifestyle, which we feel is a private issue between you and Hashem, we do agree that you have the right to have rights like any other Human or Jewish citizen.shaya gnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-10256879954387053962009-08-10T10:16:50.218+03:002009-08-10T10:16:50.218+03:00Pesky Settler:
Let's define terms. Basic hu...Pesky Settler: <br /><br />Let's define terms. Basic human rights include things like the right to life, the right to freedom etc. Actually all "rights" are really obligations on other parties - not to take away anybody else's life or freedom.<br /><br />The right to marriage that you speak of is really an obligation on the government/society to provide certain benefits to the couple. Marriage has been defined since time immemorial as a union between an man and a woman. Now we have people who are coming and wanting to redefine "marriage" to include same-sex partnerships - and I will not go along with that. They want to live together? I'm not standing in their way. They want official recognition and government benefits for their union? Get lost.<br /><br />Parenting: I don't know why you think anyone has a "right" to be a parent - reminds me of <a href="http://bit.ly/GWoCX" rel="nofollow">Stan wanting the right to have a baby</a>. If a woman becomes pregnant and has a baby, that is her child. The man from whom she conceived is the father - and together, they have the <b>obligation</b> to be parents to the child. As it happens, I have a cousin who is a lesbian, and she went and got sperm from a sperm bank so she could have a baby. The kid (nice kid!) is hers, and she's a great mom. I have no issue with that.<br /><br />Oh, you're talking about <b>adoption</b>? Arguably it is better for an unwanted child to grow up under the care of a homosexual couple rather than in an orphanage - but right now in Israel there are waiting lists of childless couples who want to adopt a kid. I would much rather see the child growing up with straight adoptive parents, just for the sake of the child's chinuch. But I have much less of a problem with allowing gay couples to adopt than I do with giving them state benefits as a couple. Theoretically even a single person could adopt a child; why would you need to be married in order to take on the obligations of adoption?<br /><br />Each issue needs to be looked at in its own context. My rule of thumb is, I don't bother people about their private behavior - but don't ask me to reward deviancy.Shaul Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13657787388625188732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-85527128140642581162009-08-10T09:42:37.144+03:002009-08-10T09:42:37.144+03:00the only thing we seem to be debating is whether t...<i>the only thing we seem to be debating is whether they should get <b>special protection</b> of those rights, seeing as there's a big social stigma against gays.</i><br /><br />The simple fact that you and others feel that one's sexual orientation should determine whether or not one should enjoy what many see as basic "rights" (marriage, child-rearing, etc) says to me that yes, the gay community <b>does</b> need special protection of those rights.<br /><br />And you say 'use smoking' instead of homosexuality. Well, I say substitute the word 'black' for 'gay' and we're back to the 1600's.<br /><br />As someone already said, there is no prohibition against BEING. There are certain acts which are prohibited and IMO it behooves everyone to be <i>dan lekav zechut</i>. Yes, I know, rose-colored glasses and all that.<br /><br />(FTR I agree with Rafi and I had said as much when discussing the shooting with friends... there is no proof that this is a hate crime perpetrated by the (ultra) religious)Pesky Settlerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03077745747562609723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-51085948870773489782009-08-10T09:24:36.180+03:002009-08-10T09:24:36.180+03:00Mark,
Firstly, the pork-eating Russians are mostly...Mark,<br />Firstly, the pork-eating Russians are mostly non-Jews: <i>es gesunteheit</i>!<br />Secondly, yes, it upsets me that some Jews eat pork, and that they do it in public. There are also many people who are mechalel shabbos in public, which is even worse. <br /><br />But, to my knowledge, there is no organization that is making a shita out of pork eating, nor is there one dedicated to abolishing shabbos. Nobody is demanding special rights and protection for pork-eaters; nobody is lobbying the government to provide incentives for businesses to stay open on shabbos.<br /><br />OTOH, there are plenty of organizations making a song and dance about giving homosexuals special rights and protection. I'm not going to barge into anybody's bedroom, but I sure as h311 am not going to support special privileges for a group of people who define themselves by the mitzva they violate.Shaul Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13657787388625188732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-44114552251580089402009-08-10T05:20:38.657+03:002009-08-10T05:20:38.657+03:00Shaul - There's a world of difference between ...<i>Shaul - There's a world of difference between someone who violates mitzvos, and someone who makes a <b>shita</b> out of violating mitzvos.</i><br /><br />Then you must be apoplectic over the <b>shita</b> of the hundreds of thousands of Russians that came to Israel in the early 90's and almost immediately demanded access to pork products. Sure enough, within months, many stores opened to serve them their chazer. And those stores are still open and thriving. Even regular Chilonim, that rarely (sure the odd maadanei mizra every so often, but not regularly) ate chazer before their arrival are enjoying it much more often. And it's much cheaper now due to the large supply and steady demand.<br /><br />Both anal sex between men and eating chazer are issurei deoreita. And there are restaurants right on the street serving chazer all over the place where people eat chazer right in the open. And there's not a single sex shop on the street where men engage in anal sex with each other in the open.<br /><br /><i>shaya - shy guy, Don't know if you're reading this but just in case, you're the one who's lost.</i><br /><br />GBF* is an "ancient" tradition here on the Internet. 99% of the time, they come back, either with a new name or with the old one.<br /><br />Mark<br />twitter.com/MarkSoFla<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />* GBF = Good Bye ForeverAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-48953299460752924342009-08-09T21:21:57.110+03:002009-08-09T21:21:57.110+03:00shy guy,
Don't know if you're reading thi...shy guy,<br /><br />Don't know if you're reading this but just in case, you're the one who's lost.shaya gnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-35617260067317160472009-08-09T20:07:34.074+03:002009-08-09T20:07:34.074+03:00Way:
I hear you, but you're operating under th...Way:<br />I hear you, but you're operating under the assumption that somebody else's sexual practices don't affect me. You come from an Orthodox background; surely you are familiar with Vayikra 18, especially verses 24-28 - the part about the land vomiting out its inhabitants because of their sexual immorality. OK, you don't believe in it, but to me it makes a very big difference to my life if somebody else is drilling a hole in the bottom of the boat, even if it's only under his seat, so to speak. It's one thing if it's a bunch of individuals doing their thing in private; it's a whole different ball game if they're "coming out", trumpeting their immorality (as I see it), and demanding recognition and special protection! <br /><br />As to your Nazi comparison, I think that's beneath this debate; you've just demonstrated the truth of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Godwin%27s_law" rel="nofollow">Godwin's Law</a>, and I will not relate to it.Shaul Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13657787388625188732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-55283542395664244402009-08-09T18:38:29.049+03:002009-08-09T18:38:29.049+03:00Rafi,
If you are wondering than you already know ...Rafi,<br /><br />If you are wondering than you already know the answer. Now you just have to accept the answer.The Wayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02450690035446068510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-19129839446868614952009-08-09T18:29:13.771+03:002009-08-09T18:29:13.771+03:00Shaul,
There is a difference between thinking you...Shaul,<br /><br />There is a difference between thinking your way is right and believing others to be wrong. <br /><br />Read Anon's remarkes about charedii and torah true. Even in the charedii world you have someone who puts on all the trappings and is suffering because his Rabbis and idols who claim they are the torah world do not match his internal reading of the world. (perhaps I've restated his claim in a way he did not overtly intend)<br /><br />Regardless, the point is that there is enough debate that if someone says the way you talk about me and my group hurts my feelings, and further, gives implicit support for the more vocal opponents, it is not pc to recognize that there are healthier ways and words to discuss whether Gays should be granted secular rights under secular law.<br /><br />And given how many times jews have suffered the condemnation of others for their deviant behavior, one might hope that even though you believe your god makes the homosexual act a sin, perhaps it could be left at that. Perhaps the inheritors of the holocaust legacy (just the most recent in a long line) could say that everybody should be given equal rights and protections under the law and we will let god sort out what it meant about their behavior. If you don't want to commit that act, than don't.The Wayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02450690035446068510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-43179749325890984422009-08-09T17:45:50.837+03:002009-08-09T17:45:50.837+03:00Rafi,
You are making a fundamental mistake: chare...Rafi,<br /><br />You are making a fundamental mistake: chareidi and Torah-true are NOT synonymous!!!<br /><br />I and my family look chareidi, daven in chareidi shuls in the neighborhood and send our children to chareidi schools but we DO NOT like to be called chareidi b'diyuk for this reason. It means nothing whatsoever with regard to Torah-true, and that is part of the arrogance of the chareidi world, thinking they have the monopoly on Torah, even going so far as to call itself "the Torah world" to the exclusion of anyone who does not fit the chareidi bill, whatever that is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-58780219395802784682009-08-09T16:53:22.244+03:002009-08-09T16:53:22.244+03:00ehwhy: why do you think I "jumped to the defe...<b>ehwhy:</b> why do you think I "jumped to the defence" of Shy Guy, who walked out on the debate? Or that I was advocating using the legal system to enforce anybody's mitzva observance? I never said either of those things, nor would I.<br /><br /><b>Way:</b> I stand by my "yetzer hora" and "deviancy" comments; I would apply the same term to smoking, stealing and violating shabbos. Each of these things, to me, represents deviant behavior. The perpetrators themselves may or may not agree with me on that point, and on that we can agree to disagree. But I'm not going to change my view of what is normative/desirable and what is deviant/undesirable just because it's not PC. Doesn't mean I hate the people; just that I condemn their behavior.Shaul Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13657787388625188732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-43582628538678050252009-08-09T16:47:40.904+03:002009-08-09T16:47:40.904+03:00I dont know, and I sometimes wonder about that mys...I dont know, and I sometimes wonder about that myself...Rafi G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00699851287106903971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-32204327172543568232009-08-09T16:46:34.718+03:002009-08-09T16:46:34.718+03:00Rafi,
I agree with you. In each of my posts I hav...Rafi,<br /><br />I agree with you. In each of my posts I have said clearly, I agree with you.<br /><br />But that doesn't mean we shouldn't listen to what the gay community is saying. If someone uses an opportunity to stand up and say, you are hurting me" it is not out of line to listen and perhaps hear what they are saying.<br /><br />Let me ask you this, what would happen in a Torah True Israel? not an ancient one, but if next election, or after the next war, if israel was compleetly taken over and run by charediim and changed the laws of the state and the nature of the state to be torah true. Would that new Israel be more like the Taliban or the Buddhists?The Wayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02450690035446068510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-77489964163139804282009-08-09T16:43:13.261+03:002009-08-09T16:43:13.261+03:00Shaul,
Somebody said they were going to stop readi...Shaul,<br />Somebody said they were going to stop reading Rafi's blog over one post. You immediately jumped to his defense. <br /><br />I get very nervous when it comes to the legal system being used to enforce other's Torah observance. The slope is not that slippery to end up with some wack jobs in RBS B determining all halchic standards for everybody.ehwhyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06436676108396672275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-69418104942411868692009-08-09T16:39:34.941+03:002009-08-09T16:39:34.941+03:00Shaul,
You could not be more way off base. I have...Shaul,<br /><br />You could not be more way off base. I have no hatred for religion or religious people. I have an intellectual dispute in the sense that I have a completely different reading of the torah and view of the rabbis than you. But I grew up in the ortho world, live in an area where there are many orthodox. Send my children to a jewish school that are owned by orthodox and have 80-90% orthodox families. And I have worked for years to achieve a healthy basic level of enlightenment where I hate no one and no group. I do feel bad for the orthodox. And occasionally I am frustrated by the idea that any answer an orthodox person can find for any question is a good enough answer no matter how flimsy or illogical or wrong, because the answer doesn't actually need to be right if the true answer is god. But no hate.<br /><br />As for the responses on this blog.<br />1) the mere mention of a secular govt bestowing equal secular rights made shy guy run away<br />2)"The gemmora says the end of the world when they leave the closet."<br />3)'m not going to judge individuals who give in to their yetzer hora" calling it yetzer hora is taken as a hateful comment by those who have the genetic/biochemical? structure to be gay. You may not intend it that way but in communication, each side has an obligation to make sure their words are chosen with care. <br />4)(from you again)"don't expect to have your deviancy ..." really? you don't think calling homeosexuals deviant is hatefull, or would be taken as such? really shaul? in your smoker metaphor you didn't call that behavior deviant, and that actually would qualify.<br /><br /><br />and that are just a few quick snippets from this blog. Having grown up orthodox and remaining connected to the orthodox community I am confident that I have the ability to recognize the hatred that is openly taught and enforced and re enforced. That is why people are jumping to the conclusion, which I agree with rafi is too early assume. But the point remains. The orthodox are the most vocal haters of the gays and they use the same language that was used to "intellectually debate" the deviancy of jews in the 1920's and 30's. Then they just started killing us wholesale so the debate kind of ended.The Wayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02450690035446068510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-45299942554974489252009-08-09T16:37:40.803+03:002009-08-09T16:37:40.803+03:00Way - nobody but the media and the gay community (...Way - nobody but the media and the gay community (I don't know which was because of which) pointed at the charedi community. According to the police, they have no prime suspect and have no specific motive under scrutiny.<br /><br />They have no idea who did it or why.<br /><br />That means it could have been done for any reason at all. Just pure criminal, revenge, mafia, religious, hatred, terror (of the nationalist kind), or other reasons.<br /><br />That which everyone is assuming it was a haredi perpetrator, despite the police never saying so, never investigating noe as a prime suspect, never claiming they have leads in the haredi community, etc. shows that people are just using this to attack the haredim for no reason. It could have been anybody for any reason. And even if it is hatred, it is not just haredim who hate gays. In america too plenty on non "orthodox jews" hate gays. That does not mean one would kill, and it means haredim are not the only haters of gays. At worst they hate them as much as everybody else.Rafi G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00699851287106903971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-3445321381234457002009-08-09T15:37:11.006+03:002009-08-09T15:37:11.006+03:00Way:
As the old adage goes: you point a finger, an...Way:<br />As the old adage goes: you point a finger, and 3 fingers point back at you.<br />Have you seen anyone here saying they hate gays? Anyone? Please provide the quotation. If you're seeing any hatred in this discussion, it's entirely in your own eyes. Methinks you are projecting your own hatred for religion/religious people...Shaul Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13657787388625188732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-7131389061242196212009-08-09T15:26:26.697+03:002009-08-09T15:26:26.697+03:00The Way, you are absolutely right. That also remi...The Way, you are absolutely right. That also reminds me: We still do not know who fired the shots.<br /><br />I don't know too many Haredim with M-16's.<br /><br />This could easily be a set up to further the demonization of "settlers."Esser Agarothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12853681733864707489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-67058542256018246242009-08-09T15:23:54.312+03:002009-08-09T15:23:54.312+03:00SB, sorry if I wasn't so clear.
Obviously, w...SB, sorry if I wasn't so clear. <br /><br />Obviously, we do not have an authority in existence which may execute the death penalty, let alone rule on such matters.<br /><br />I was simply applying the same standard to "rights" which we DO have the ability to rule on and implement via herem, making sure we do not patronize certain businesses, not counting certain Jews in minyanim, and most certainly fighting against granting such individuals rights.<br /><br />What do you mean by human rights vs. civil rights? <br /><br />I find nor differentiation mentioned in the Torah, save for a continuum of rights.<br /><br />The above phrases are of goyshe construction. Let's use Torah terms.<br /><br />Am I allowed to support such a person's business? May I count such a Jew in a minyan? Is this Jew pasul for eiduth? Am I allowed to talk to such a person? Who is the appropriate person to give tochahah here? <br /><br />Should we have confirmation that this person engages in forbidden acts?<br /><br />How do we handle a person who we do not know engages in forbidden acts, yet encourages others to do so?<br /><br />I'm just trying to throw out the questions we need to ask based on Torah logic. True, Israeli law is, in a way, a current reality we're stuck in. Yet, let's at least try to remember that the Torah applies to all aspects of our lives, and that "dina malkhuth dina" does NOT apply in Eretz Yisrael.<br /><br />Let's do the best we can to Ge'ulah minded, with Torah and Torah logic applied as much as possible.<br /><br />We may be stuck with choosing to follow Israeli [or not], but we are most certainly not bound in using non-Torah concepts, logic, and terminology, simply because the Erev Rav controlled gov't does.<br /><br />NOTE: Marriage between same gender couples is also assur, based on Wayiqra 18:3. I could be wrong but I seem to recall that Haza"l mentions that this kind of marriage was practiced in Egypt and K'na'an, and thus is included in the misswah lo ta'aseh of 18:3.Esser Agarothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12853681733864707489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-22591558268300569872009-08-09T15:23:14.098+03:002009-08-09T15:23:14.098+03:00well rafi,
I hope that the posts here help clarif...well rafi,<br /><br />I hope that the posts here help clarify for you why the gay and general secular community at large are using this shooting to publicize the hatred that emanates from the charedi world.<br /><br />It is interesting that some of the same arguments that many orthodox jews use to justify their hate to gays were the same arguments used against jews over the years.The Wayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02450690035446068510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-71912132961439687742009-08-09T15:13:37.124+03:002009-08-09T15:13:37.124+03:00Abbi, I think our point of divergence may be somew...Abbi, I think our point of divergence may be somewhat deeper, so let's clarify: do you believe that the Torah was given by G-d, and that the homosexuality prohibited by the Torah is an inherently immoral act?<br /><br />If not, well, we differ on much more fundamental issues than protecting the human rights of gays, and this particular aspect of the debate can serve no useful purpose.<br /><br />If you do believe in Torah min hashamayim, then how do you justify legislating homosexuals' "right" to cohabit?Shaul Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13657787388625188732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-80471275165005389222009-08-09T15:08:31.173+03:002009-08-09T15:08:31.173+03:00Ben Yehuda, you lost me there.
Nobody AFAIK is tal...Ben Yehuda, you lost me there.<br />Nobody AFAIK is talking about issuing a death penalty for homosexuality. So far, everyone is in agreement that gays should have the same human rights as everyone else; the only thing we seem to be debating is whether they should get <b>special protection</b> of those rights, seeing as there's a big social stigma against gays.<br /><br />I am saying no; others seem to be saying yes.<br /><br />Have I summed up the debate fairly?Shaul Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13657787388625188732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-33895122704376558252009-08-09T15:07:29.214+03:002009-08-09T15:07:29.214+03:00CA, are you some kind of mamlachti {undying state ...CA, are you some kind of mamlachti {undying state loyalist}?Esser Agarothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12853681733864707489noreply@blogger.com