tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post4134912845737426179..comments2024-03-29T11:40:46.477+03:00Comments on Life in Israel: Dear ManRafi G.http://www.blogger.com/profile/00699851287106903971noreply@blogger.comBlogger57125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-73530423304973804472011-09-21T01:31:19.034+03:002011-09-21T01:31:19.034+03:00Thanks, Sarah, for your empathy and support. Yes, ...Thanks, Sarah, for your empathy and support. Yes, we have much to work out here, building and shaping our State. Such multi-layered considerations, pressures, opposing interests and values etc.. But hopefully, God is with us here, guiding us along, and we'll eventually get it right :)!!<br />Shana tova to you!Rachelynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-57901263787891158712011-09-20T03:48:07.382+03:002011-09-20T03:48:07.382+03:00I also wanted to say how sorry I am that you have ...I also wanted to say how sorry I am that you have to go through this. We are rooting for you.Sarah J.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-61178033005555667712011-09-20T03:45:31.587+03:002011-09-20T03:45:31.587+03:00Rachely, thanks for your reply. Yes, there is a la...Rachely, thanks for your reply. Yes, there is a larger issue here. I personally think that regardless of what is assur and what is permitted, I feel that indeed, this is a by-product of Israel, in it's democracy and good-will, coddling certain Charedim and allowing them to function in too much isolation a little too much. It's turning some into literal terrorists. I'm talking specifically about the ones who don't contribute to their country, and the ones who are given a runway to abuse young girls while the police stand there with their hands "tied". If they don't believe in the State of Israel, then why are they there, and why are they being allowed to make everyone's lives (specifically those who make it possible for them to live there) miserable? If they don't like it, they can get out. Where in the world can they live their lives completely unchecked as they can in Israel? It's verbal, emotional, and physical abuse when grown men yell out perverse rants to little girls, throw objects at them, and smoke in their faces as they are leaving school. Please let me know if there's anything you'd like us to do here in the States. My community is modern orthodox, some Charedi but normal, so I'd be preaching to the choir. I've also been reluctant to be very vocal of this, as I have many non-Jewish friends, and this is such a giant chilul Hashem, on their part, but it inevitably reflects as a whole.Sarah J.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-82327148624968450792011-09-20T00:29:30.011+03:002011-09-20T00:29:30.011+03:00Sarah, examples to fortify Shoshanna's claim, ...Sarah, examples to fortify Shoshanna's claim, most of which she alluded to in her article:<br /><br />In the Orot context, which I can testify to, personally:<br /><br />1. Calling the girls "shikses". No, I don't think they thought out the Halachic repercussions, only came up with the cruellest slander in their jargon.<br /><br />2. Yelling "prtizes" at them, as they walk by.<br /><br />3. Protesting the very presence of a girl's school in their neighborhood (it isn't really theirs, but that's a different issue). If it were a boy's school - it would be all right.<br /><br />In other contexts:<br />4. Blurring images of women in publications, including those of young girls and even dolls.<br /><br />5. When matching pictures of professionals to their names in a local magazine, there are no pictures of the women professionals.<br /><br />5. In the Haredi neighborhood, adjacent to mine, there is a sign asking women to walk only on the sidewalk opposite a certain shul.<br /><br />6. Certain posts in the BS list, advertising Torah lessons and other religious events, call for men's attendance only (and I don't mean shiurim with women-only or men-only contents, if there is such a thing).<br /><br />7. This I have not seen, only heard of, so I can't vouch for its accuracy - a certain food stand in RBS serves men alone (?!)<br /><br />8. The no. 11 bus line, in which it is expected for women to get on from the back side of the bus and not the front (this is now illegal, but from what I've seen, the women take this upon themselves just the same).Rachelynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-7246926558375384892011-09-19T23:47:35.123+03:002011-09-19T23:47:35.123+03:00Shoshana: I'm a terrible writer, and I'm f...Shoshana: I'm a terrible writer, and I'm far away from this conflict, but maybe if I had all the facts! You say that there are "constant and increasingly extreme measures taken to erase them from Jewish society." Do you have any examples? Is this drawn from the chants of "Shiksa" etc. It's hard to know all of this in Nevada, but is that what these specific Haredim are alleging? That these girls should be cut off from Judaism? Why? Because of a difference of opinion in Sniut? I'm very curious, and would love to research this for my own Jewish education.Sarah J.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-75970098313621831822011-09-19T23:30:57.703+03:002011-09-19T23:30:57.703+03:00Sara-
While it was the event that brought all of ...Sara-<br /><br />While it was the event that brought all of this to a boil, the Orot Banot issue is not THE issue of this piece. the issue of this piece is the constant and increasingly extreme measures taken to erase them from Jewish society in these circles. <br /><br />If you see a need for a certain type of article I sincerely suggest you write it- and pass it on!Shoshannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777262707944304743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-55788320449144085842011-09-19T23:20:05.411+03:002011-09-19T23:20:05.411+03:00I would interject that the pictures are not chared...I would interject that the pictures are not charedi but they are kannoi/kitzoniRafi G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00699851287106903971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-1166972519634104542011-09-19T23:14:09.569+03:002011-09-19T23:14:09.569+03:00Kind of a kooky post, but I agree with your point....Kind of a kooky post, but I agree with your point. Two areas you may have wanted to give a little more thought to: 1."You scream our sins from rooftops." You make it sound like an actual sin. In reality, there is no sin, only an alleged sin, or an accused sin. 2. "It is not our obligation to arrange our lives, dress and behavior according to your warped and distorted interpretation of Gd’s word." This is the problem I have with sharing these articles with my secular friends. Why stoop to their level and attack their beliefs? Is it not their beliefs that you are taking issue with, but their imposition on your young children and innocent citizens, right? I really wish there was a better quality in writing on your part. This is not a personal attack, rather a critique I have about most of the Dati-Leumi posts I see in response to this terrible abuse. They are too emotional, kooky/inappropriately sassy, and frankly, the fringe Haredim who are doing this don't care about your feelings, sorry. Reason? Maybe. A clear rebuke from what they consider a higher power, or a Rav, Maybe a little more. Let's focus on the issue here: They are abusing young children in the name of G-d.Sarah J.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-88490651273823229312011-09-19T23:06:12.978+03:002011-09-19T23:06:12.978+03:00This comment has been removed by the author.Shoshannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777262707944304743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-74814769843745393042011-09-19T22:53:18.847+03:002011-09-19T22:53:18.847+03:00This comment has been removed by the author.Shoshannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777262707944304743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-14006912117288732822011-09-19T17:21:36.480+03:002011-09-19T17:21:36.480+03:00Although perhaps 8:06 has shown why some men shoul...Although perhaps 8:06 has shown why some men shouldn't be allowed on the internet. Or in the streets.Mikeagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15827275300296295639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-90418343103107243462011-09-19T17:18:56.237+03:002011-09-19T17:18:56.237+03:00anonymous of 8:06 - that was inappropriate and unc...anonymous of 8:06 - that was inappropriate and uncalled for.Rafi G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00699851287106903971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-81363347288978370192011-09-19T17:01:20.331+03:002011-09-19T17:01:20.331+03:00Anon 8:19am - The BHM was destroyed because of Sin...Anon 8:19am - <i>The BHM was destroyed because of Sinas Chinam, ie. telling chareidim that they need to go to work because that is what I respect.</i><br /><br />I'm not sure if this statement falls under sinat chinam. I suppose it depends on motivations. If a person simply hates Charedim and thinks they should be punished by working (serving army, etc), then perhaps it does. But that isn't the view of most people who want Charedim to work. Most people who want Charedim to work, want it because they realize that a country with a sizable and growing percentage of people that don't regularly work is damaging to the economy, and because of the growth over the long-term may be fatal to the economy (and perhaps even country). As far as the national service issue, the motivations are also rarely from the hatred, but more because national service is a kind of common denominator that unifies a nation and gives each person a common stake in its survival. Outside of Charedim, the army unifies the country like nothing else does.Markhttp://twitter.com/Marksoflanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-66008198814712714482011-09-19T13:51:58.528+03:002011-09-19T13:51:58.528+03:00Oops, sorry for copying part of Shoshanna's me...Oops, sorry for copying part of Shoshanna's message into mine (I wanted to relate to it clearly while writing) and not deleting. My mistake.Rachelynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-69810356793112766672011-09-19T13:49:02.253+03:002011-09-19T13:49:02.253+03:00Thank you, Shoshanna.
Personally, I decided to no...Thank you, Shoshanna.<br /><br />Personally, I decided to no longer read the new business magazine, after I saw how women were not respectfully represented in it in the last issue, and have boycotted the no. 11 bus for many months now, finding the (now legally forbidden)separation on it humiliating.<br /><br />Yishar kochech. I, for one, am right behind you!<br /><br />but in the removal of women from publications, shul lists, magazines etc. For Gd's sake they blurred styrafome heads!! This is far from normal, but it is becoming our norm.Rachelynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-32714799561656951552011-09-19T11:47:06.596+03:002011-09-19T11:47:06.596+03:00This comment has been removed by the author.Shoshannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777262707944304743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-67207593826543502932011-09-19T08:54:14.315+03:002011-09-19T08:54:14.315+03:00This comment has been removed by the author.Shoshannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777262707944304743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-9756637464056417732011-09-19T08:39:49.077+03:002011-09-19T08:39:49.077+03:00This comment has been removed by the author.Shoshannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777262707944304743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-33019214778313221682011-09-19T08:13:18.725+03:002011-09-19T08:13:18.725+03:00Rachely-
Thank you for actually reading and compr...Rachely-<br /><br />Thank you for actually reading and comprehending the message. Your insights are spot on and part of the greater discussion that must be had if we are to move on as a people and not destroy ourselves from within. <br /><br />As I mentioned, this extremism is not just in over/undersexed grown men objectifying and shouting 'schnitzel' at little girls and using them in their battle of dominance in a given area, but in the removal of women from publications, shul lists, magazines etc. For Gd's sake they blurred styrafome heads!! This is far from normal, but it is becoming our norm.<br /><br />Yes, we as a people have a lot of fixing to do, but the BM was not destroyed because little girls went to school or because women rode on the front donkey!!<br /><br />Thank you for bringing the discussion back to where it should be.Shoshannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05777262707944304743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-64361530152169350602011-09-19T08:06:46.528+03:002011-09-19T08:06:46.528+03:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-39323565185792017912011-09-19T07:50:22.224+03:002011-09-19T07:50:22.224+03:00This is anonymous commenter #26. I just want to sa...This is anonymous commenter #26. I just want to say I think it is getting confusing with all the different anonymous posters. ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-17264205786347801042011-09-19T06:03:37.780+03:002011-09-19T06:03:37.780+03:00Beautiful post Shoshana. On a practical level I th...Beautiful post Shoshana. On a practical level I think there's a way to disable anonymous posting.Scorchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052978141900539175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-38409185106440225162011-09-19T01:23:02.978+03:002011-09-19T01:23:02.978+03:00Thank you so much, Shoshanna, for voicing profound...Thank you so much, Shoshanna, for voicing profound truths. And thanks, Rafi, for the *hachnasat orchim*. I'd like to join in the discussion and apologize, in advance, for the length of my post.<br /><br />Though our girls are older, I try to do my part at Orot as often as I can at dismissal time (and was around for both tomato and eggs incidents.. not fun..)in order to form some kind of barrier between the thugs and the innocent girls (and boys)who have no idea why they provoke such reactions from strange men in black.<br /><br />I believe these offenses have to be dealt with legally and I have tremendous respect and appreciation for Rabbi Dov Lipman and all the others who tirelessly work to bring that about.<br /><br />However, I want to sharpen some points underlying Shoshanna's beautifully-expressed message, if I may.<br /><br />As I see it, the bottom line of the particular Jewish-male-mindset Shoshanna describes is that the essence of women (and, obviously, this is a generalization, but broad strokes will be helpful here, I hope) has to do with their sexuality. Unlike men, who are credited with so many components and dimensions, women are perceived, first of all, vis a vis their physiological make-up. As this touches on biological, erotic, emotional elements, I think it is this that explains the fear and sense of threat that men who don't "get beyond" the very initial differences between the genders, feel and act upon. To these men, women are constant threats, just waiting to corrupt and lead them astray, rather than equal-worth partners in life's journeys, blessed with the same God-given capabilities, gifts, visions, goals, values that they themselves have. What a waste and what a shame.<br /><br />There is much to say about Halacha here (*hilchot yichud*, *kol isha*, *eshet ish* etc.) and how it might reflect some of this, but I don't want to overstay my welcome..Rachely Schlossnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-53003045777781307112011-09-18T23:58:09.996+03:002011-09-18T23:58:09.996+03:00Rafi G(Money). My point is that the deti leumi/mod...Rafi G(Money). My point is that the deti leumi/modern orthodox are not accepting of the differences of the chareidim just like the chareidim are not accepting of the differences of the dati leumi. Both are wrong and both want the other side to be like them. There are 70 faces of Torah and each Jew's soul is naturally attracted to a certain type of Judaism. One neshama connects to what the dati leumi movement stands for and another neshama connects to what the chareidim stand for. If both were to understand that each neshama is different we would not try to go change the other person. Here I am talking about regular chareidim. I am not talking about the particular sect in BS. They have big issues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20257999.post-24578192618254944752011-09-18T23:43:04.553+03:002011-09-18T23:43:04.553+03:00just talk doesnt an extremist make.
ex·trem·ist ...just talk doesnt an extremist make.<br /><br />ex·trem·ist (k-strmst)<br />n.<br />One who advocates or resorts to measures beyond the norm, especially in politics.<br /><br />is talking, or not respecting, really resorting to measures beyond the norm? <br />if that's the worst type of extremism the DL can come up with, the chareidim, extreme or otherwise, have nothing to worry aboutRafi G.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00699851287106903971noreply@blogger.com