I am always amused at stories like these. I am actually always amused when I go to weddings, and I was at three very recently where the same exact thing happened at each wedding, and we cannot seem to figure out a better system, and everyone stumbles in exactly the same spot.
The most glaring example of this that comes to mind, and the one I noticed recently at all 3 weddings I was at in the past couple of weeks, is the clumsiness of the mothers breaking the plate. The two women get there and are handed a plate wrapped in a napkin, that if they would even be successful they would probably slice through their hands, so it is probably better that it rarely works.
So the two mothers are given this plate to break, and of course they are not coordinated enough with each other to be smashing it against the top of the chair with even strength, so they rarely break it on the first try. Then, perhaps the plate is too thick, perhaps it is slippery because of the way it is usually wrapped, perhaps for other reasons, they start smashing it a few times against the chair. Sometimes it breaks after a few tries, usually they then, or often just one of them, just throw it to the ground and it shatters.
After so long of doing the same thing, I am surprised nobody has come up with a better o way of breakign the plate, and then standardizing the method.
Another example is the breaking of the glass under the chuppa. This is not quite as bad, as sometimes it is done very efficiently, on the first try. Sometimes they are smart enough to wrap the glass well, to use a thin glass, and to ensure it has all the chances of breaking on the first try. Other times it is a hard and thick glass, and it might take a few tries by the chosson before he can break it, with the glass even possibly sliding out from under his foot. Other times the glass is not wrapped well, and shards of the glass come out fo the wrapping, endangering people with thin soles. And there are some times that someone actually gets hurt with a shard of glass going through the sole of his or her shoe and right into the foot.
And this is what happened at a recent wedding in Ashdod.
The Story
An older couple, in their 50s, came to the offices of the Rabbanut in Ashdod to get married. They had everything ready for the couple, and at the end of the chuppa, the chosson said "Im Eshkachaich.." and then smashed his foot on the glass.
To his dismay, some shards shot out at the leg of the kallah, and caused a deep gash in her leg. With no paramedic on site, she was taken in an ambulance to the hospital, straight from her chuppa, to have the shard of glass removed. (source: Ashdodnet)
Mazel tov, and refuah shleima. And it is about time we found some sort of new system for the breaking of the plate and the glass.
When I got married, many many moons ago, my father went to a glassware store in Chicago and asked for their most breakable glass. Not a common request, I bet - but it worked quite well, on the very first try!
ReplyDeleteI have heard of some people using a light bulb, which is obviously easily breakable..
ReplyDeleteIf you spring for a decent piece of crystal you should be fine since crystal typically has a thin rim. (Which, by the way, is also why you should not stand it upside down as many store glass, since it can break under its own weight). And yes, wrapping it in a cloth napkin is another must.
ReplyDeleteThis is the first time I've heard of the glass injuring the kallah.
I've seen caterers provide a hammer (the handle encrusted with shiny baubles) for the mothers to hold in tandem. Works the first time.
ReplyDeleteI have never seen the hammer. sounds like a solution
ReplyDeleteIn Israel they sell a "chosson" glass - it is very thin and even all the way around - no stem.
ReplyDeleteI'm taking notes for my daughter's wedding in just under 3 weeks...
ReplyDeletemazel tov!
ReplyDeleteFor my daughter's wedding, the chatan's mother and I put the plate in a tied plastic bag and together threw it onto the floor. It shattered easily, and none of the shattered pieces hurt anyone, as they remained within the bag.
ReplyDeleteThis was as per our (fabulous) wedding planner's instructions, Elaine Beychok of Evantastic.com .
The chatan's glass was fully wrapped in aluminium foil, broke easily and likewise the pieces did not scatter.