The avreich detailed that his wife needs to travel a half an hour each way to get to work and back home. In addition, she has errands to run and other things to do that she needs to go places for. So, on the one hand she can drive and get there quickly and do what she needs to do, despite the tzniyus problem of her driving. On the other hand, there are alternatives, none of which are very good with tzniyus problems that are worse than when she drives her own car:
1. she could take a bus. This too has tzniyus problems as there is no mechitza and men and women are mixed and the bus is sometimes crowded, and the drivers are often not Torah-observant people.
2. She could take a taxi. This too is problematic, as most of the drivers are not Torah-observant. And, even with a frum drivers, it is a situation of a private car ride with a man and a woman secluded together. It is at least quasi-yichud.
3. she could walk. This [resents a problem with long distances and both the ability to walk them and the amount of time it would take, but it is also a tzniyus problem as she is exposed for other strange men to look at her while in the street.
The avreich concluded hsi question by saying that the option of her driving a car seems to be the best (or, least bad) of them all.
So, can she drive a car?
Rav Zilbershtein responded saying that her driving is actually the worst of all the options. bus, taxi and walking present problems, but she could be careful to not cause men to stumble. There is, however, no intrinsic problem with tzniyus with any of these options. Driving a car, however, is completely against the rules of tzniyus for a woman.
Besides for the various problems it causes and for her need to be in contact with men, it is actually prohibited for her to drive. Rav Zilbershtein explained a verse in "tefillas haderech" in which we pray for a safe trip that says "says me from dangerous animals on the way". He explained that this also refers to drivers who do not follow the rules of the road, and they turn the situation on the road to one of war, and war is not for women.
Honestly, to me, that seems to be a real stretch. Like shooting an arrow and then drawing the target around the arrow after it hit.
But, to go on.. Rav Zilbershtein relates a story of a woman who was driving, a very important woman very involved in chessed, and she drove into a tree and became handicapped for the rest of her life. Rav Yechezkal aAbramsky had said about that case that it was because she was driving, and a woman should not.
He was not just saying that women are bad drivers, but he says there is a spiritual problem caused by it that results in such accidents. It causes terrible pritzus, is opposed to the concept of "kol kvoda bat melech pnima"...
Rav Zilbershtein went on to blame (at least as one of the factors) the high rate of traffic accidents on Israeli roads, in which many good people have been killed, on women driving cars - again, from a spiritual perspective. In addition to the spiritual problems, he adds that women cannot deal with the high pressure situations and sometimes cause these accidents.
The only way a woman could drive, according to Rav Zilbershtein, is in a situation of great need, such as a woman who must take her handicapped child for treatments, and other similarly unique and extreme situations and then a specific question must be asked to a rav. Rav Zilbershtein also adds that driving abroad might be a different situation and rabbonim there should be asked when relevant.
I dont know when Rav Abramsky said what he said, but he died over 40 years ago, so it was definitely not so recently. Being that it is so common nowadays for women to drive, I wonder how it could really still be considered such a serious tzniyus and spiritual problem - not including certain extreme elements that still consider it so - elements I was not aware Rav Zilbershtein is associated with. Far be it from me to argue with Rav Zilbershtein, but I do wonder about that.
Pointing to one case of a woman driving and getting into a bad accident is nothing but anecdotal. Many men and women, unfortunately, get into bad accidents. Crazy drivers can be found among both men and women, as can their victims.
In the original question asked, I am not sure what the relevance is in pointing out the lack of Torah-observance of the bus drivers. The taxi driver's observance is understandably more relevant, as the driver would be alone in the car with the wife. A bus driver is driving a bus filled with many people, so I wonder what relevance his level of observance has.
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He explained that this also refers to drivers who do not follow the rules of the road, and they turn the situation on the road to one of war, and war is not for women.
ReplyDeleteSorry. If being on the road is so dangerous as to be comparable to war, then no one, man or woman, should even be a passenger, never mind a driver. It's against Halachah to place oneself in that kind of danger (a war zone!) without great need. Going to Shul or the corner Makolet does not qualify.
This kind of hyperbole leads me to reject even the idea that these "Gedolim" have any attachment to reality, common sense or ability to reason.
Torah was never meant to be an ivory tower conceit. The absolutely ridiculous analogies engendered by people with no attachment to the real world have no place in Judaism.
Please tell me this is a parody. If it isn't, then it's a very sad illustration of the nonsense that is presented in some circles as Torah for our times.
ReplyDeleteYou write that a woman driving a car is inherently "a tzniyus problem", but nowhere do you (or the sources you cite) explain in what specific way is a woman driving "a tzniyus problem". Is it because a man other than her husband will see her in public? What religion is this again?
Your post is written in such a way as to indicate that you take this -- and the words of the rabbis whom you cite -- seriously. Do you?
most of the post is a translation and review of the article - the question and the answer of the rav. The rest of what I wrote is my comments on it which clearly show I do not agree.
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