the mother of a man refusing to give a gett to his wife died, and Rabbi Lau ruled that the mother would not be allowed for burial until the gett is given, or arrangements made.
Reports even have it that the chevra kadisha, unsure of what to do with the body of the mother waiting for burial, asked Rav Chaim Kanievsky about this and he said Rav Lau is correct in his instructions and the body should not be buried until the case is resolved.
I don't know the details of the case, but I would assume, based on Rav Lau's instructions, that the mother approved of what her son was doing and assisted him despite the fact that he was chaining his wife, and therefore it was ok to involve her in death in obtaining the gett at the expense of her burial.
At the end of the day, this man caved and agreed to give the gett, freeing up mom for burial. He supposedly had to commit in writing and give a large financial deposit. He lives abroad so the gett could not be given immediately. Hopefully this person won't get his mother buried and then retract his commitment.
Kudos to Rav Lau for taking even extreme measures like this to resolve the hopeless plight of this woman.
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speaking as a father of daughters they ought to bury the husband with his mother
ReplyDeleteI've always said that there are two ways for a woman to be freed from an unwanted marriage.
Deleteharsh measures are the only option in securing gets for women.
ReplyDeleteKudos to Rabbi Lau and this is an angle to use for future gets too.
an angle when there is a death in the family. but hopefully in other cases they can find other pressure points
DeleteI'm confused, I thought a forced Get is no good?
ReplyDeleteA Jewish court can force a get. It's done in Israel all the time.
Deletegood question and you are correct. I am not sure how they worked it out halachically to not be considered a get meuseh, but I am assuming Rabbi Lau knows what he is doing
ReplyDeletethe kudos to Rabbi lau is for trying. It turns out the husband today announced that he will not give the gett.
ReplyDeletemaybe they can dig up grandma as the burial is now a mekach taus
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