To start with, I agree 100% that if you are in public, you should stand still for the siren, (and maybe say a Kapital Tehilim while waiting). There are people who clearly do not understand that there are emotions involved that cannot forgive what appears to be a blatant disrespect for the Holocaust survivors, Israeli soldiers and the State of Israel.

But while I see and can empathize with your emotions, I feel that it is unfair to tie in the sirens to the suffering. A moment of silence is like what is done (liHavdil Bein Kodesh Lichol) on Nitul Nacht. When there are those that hold that there should be no learning done on the evening of December 25th so that there should be no Zchusim for the enemies of Klal Yisrael. Why would we do that to the precious Neshamos who gave their lives for us. For those that were killed because they were Jews, or because they were fighting for us to have our Holy Land back - to be honored in the most un-Jewish way possible is illogical and unfair to them. The reason to it is done now is because... it was established by the State of Israel that this is the way we honor them. But we don't honor in the way that a State says we should honor them, even if they mean well. We are Jews. We honor in the way that Jews honor. Who keeps a moment of silence on a Yahrtzeit? We don't - we learn Mishnayos, we donate to a worthy cause, do other Mitzvot in their honor, etc. I love Israel. I have nothing but the utmost respect for the soldiers and I was so happy and amazed to see, for example, in BTYA, that the day's learning was dedicated to the soldiers. Ah - that is true Judaism. That is how we behave.

Also, your article says
"To say that Yom Ha’atzmaut, the day we celebrate the Jewish People’s return to their land, as a nation, is to celebrate the secular state which is un-kosher, is to deny God’s role in the return of His people and to deny the sacrifice that the Miriams of Israel have made for every Jew to be free in our homeland. "

This is confusing. It is not the day we celebrate the Jewish People's return to their land. It's called Independence day. The Jews were here before the State of Israel. If you celebrated the anniversary of the first Aliyah movement, then you can say it has to do with the return. I know having the state helps people make Aliyah, but you are trying to make a day that is essentially secular in nature and make it holy. There is no such custom in Judaism, we don't even celebrate the 10th of Nissan when we crossed into Israel the first time as a nation.
I understand your emotion and empathy , but to say I don't care about a mother's suffering and that I deny G-d's role in Israel for not celebrating in the most un-Jewish way possible is very unfair.
Come tomorrow and spend the day in the Beit Hamedrash to thank G-d for all the miracles he did and does for the State of Israel. To be a Zchus for the Kedoshim who perished in Holocaust, for the holy Neshamos who gave their lives for our freedom here and to daven for Hashem to comfort the mourning parents and all of Kalal Yisrael that are awaiting the day that there will be no more suffering in Klal Yisrael ever again.

SOMEONE ASKED WHAT ONE COULD SAY TO THE MOTHER WHO LOST 2 SONS MENTIONED IN THE ABOVE ARTICLE. THIS WAS MY EMAIL RESPONCE:
obviously it is very sad, but she can take comfort that they died defending the lives of other jews (if that's how they died) which is a cause worth dying for. if they where killed for being jews (even if they weren't frum) that is considered dying al Kiddush hashem. if she is a Zionist, she may feel that fighting for the state is a worthy cause as well.
she should do something special on their yaartzite's.
none of this has anything to do with making a "memorial day" that has nothing jewish about it. all of the ceremonies, from the siren to the laying of wreaths, are completely copied from the goyim. they have no jewish meaning, and do nothing leiyluy (or to honor) the nashomot of those who died. they don't teach any lessons or inspire anyone to be a better jew.
on the other hand if someone is in an area where ignoring the siren will anger or hurt others, they should respect the siren to avoid those issues.

I think that we can remind ourselves that this is not the Third Commonwealth. (That will be when Moshiach comes.) The present State of Israel is possibly the first step in its establishment, after 1,878 years of exile (or if you date this from, say, the 1880's, or whenever the first Jews came back to reclaim the land, 1,810 years). As we all know, Zionism was controversial, with some Jews wanting a homeland after being persecuted in Europe and elsewhere and others insisting that only when Moshiach comes would it be time to return to the Land of Israel.

Since there are differing attitudes toward the State, it is not surprising to me that there are differences regarding the siren and moment of silence on Yom Hashoah and Yom Hazikaron. Although I can understand that there are those who do not like the State and therefore anything that commemorates the IDF as a representative of the state is automatically suspect--or "un-Jewish," as some would say--I think that this is somewhat ungrateful. So it's a custom (Memorial Day, sirens, etc.) that many countries commemorate. So what? Are Israel's soldiers not worthy of being honored because that would not be a "Jewish" way to commemorate them?

Sorry, we part company here. Those who actively denigrate this may be forgetting that until the Third Commonwealth actually arrives, there will be those who will not be able to relate to a purely "Jewish" (as defined by the "anti-State" group) commemoration. At that time, we no doubt will be united toward halachic policies for the state to be governed under, but that time has not clearly come. In the meantime, we have to recognize that there will be some who will simply not approve of the State of Israel's commemoration of its heroes in this manner, and on the other hand they will have to accept that the majority see no problem in the siren and the commemorations--and they will have to recognize that although Israel is a Jewish state, it is also a modern state, and not everything that is modern should be automatically cast as somehow "un-Jewish" and not worthy of respect.

No. The siren is "un-Jewish" because of the reason I gave before (1st comment). Not because it is a product of the state. And I believe that in public, people should respect the fact that sadly a moment of silence is considered proper respect. But they should know and understand that it is not considered such in Judaism and therefore I would think it is a million times more respectful for Jews to take that time to learn in the memory of the soldiers. To daven for the protection of the soldiers that are still protecting us.

If you are outdoors, yes, show them your respect by standing still.. but don't waste the time - say some Tehillim preferably.

It seems to me that , like the writer of the article, you insist that unless you do it "our" way, then you must feel that the soldiers are not worthy of being honored. That couldn't be further from the truth. By honoring the soldiers in a distinctively un-Jewish way, you are making a distintion between the solider and his or her Judaism. You are honoring his connection to the state but not to Judaism.

But if you honor him properly, in the most Jewish way possible - by davening and learning in his honor, it emphasizes that connection between us , the Soldier, Eretz Yisrael and G-d. How can a siren compete with that?