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Sep 2, 2009
Who cheats more on their spouse - men or women?
According to some new survey and research from England (I saw it reviewed on the Israeli website Mako, not the original survey), women are much more likely to cheat on their spouse than men.
The main reason given by women for their infidelity is boredom.
I am not going to break down the numbers or analyze the statistics. You can go there and do it yourself.
I recently learned in Shulchan Aruch that a wife should be encouraged to work, even part-time for just a small part of the day ("work" does not necessarily mean a regular job in an office, but "work" means to keep busy with something and not just sit around and have maids taking care of all her obligations. It could be housework and raising children could also be considered "work" for this purpose. Speak to your LOR or therapist for clarification on this). The reason is, the Shulchan Aruch says, is that boredom gets people in trouble, specifically "trouble" in the form of sexual infidelity.
So the English research project of today confirms what the SHulchan Aruch wrote 500 years ago.
Shkoyach!
The main reason given by women for their infidelity is boredom.
I am not going to break down the numbers or analyze the statistics. You can go there and do it yourself.
I recently learned in Shulchan Aruch that a wife should be encouraged to work, even part-time for just a small part of the day ("work" does not necessarily mean a regular job in an office, but "work" means to keep busy with something and not just sit around and have maids taking care of all her obligations. It could be housework and raising children could also be considered "work" for this purpose. Speak to your LOR or therapist for clarification on this). The reason is, the Shulchan Aruch says, is that boredom gets people in trouble, specifically "trouble" in the form of sexual infidelity.
So the English research project of today confirms what the SHulchan Aruch wrote 500 years ago.
Shkoyach!
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We have to get rid of those vacuum cleaners, washing machines, etc. LOL
ReplyDeleteThere is no reason to assume that men aren't equally affected by boredom. (vehabor rek ein bo mayim.)However, the assumption is that men are busy making a living. Women, however, if provided with enough household help and without another job, can even be bored enough that they would want to watch a soap opera.
ReplyDeleteit's actually mefurash a mishna in ksubos
ReplyDeletemore like 2000 years ago, the Shulchan Aruch is based on a Mishna in Ketubot that lists what kind of help men must supply for their wives
ReplyDeleteI suspect that some things haven always been the same. Technology may change, but humans don't.
ReplyDeleteanonymi - perek? mishna?
ReplyDeletethe SA is talking about aside from her obligations to her husband. The SA tells the husband he shuold make sure she goes to work even a little bit, because without work she will be bored and boredom brings to aveira
fifth perek of kesubos
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